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Post by Lianne on Oct 27, 2005 22:43:51 GMT -5
I just dont knwo who to talk to. I know you guys are supportive and alot of you knew that i was dating a guy named Alex. I broke up with him yesterday for many reasons. Things werent the same between us anymore, it was getting to the point where i was making excuses not to see him and i couldnt really just find a good enough reason to break up with him. I found out yesterday that he had been going to the strip clubs behind my back because he "didnt want to see the hurt look on my face" which he should have thought of before he did it. It would have been a little different if he let me know before hand, or didnt get naked women dancing on his lap every time. So i feel almost like he cheated on me. Im hurt, but at the same time i am relieved that i no longer have the stress of a bad relationship on my hands. He is a good loving person, and i know that he loved me very much, things have just changed and unfortunately it wasnt for the better.
I was putting pictures away, and was upset about it for the first time just now, i broke up with him yesterday, i think i just needed a good cry and now i will be fine. Our relationship was 2 years, 2 months and 9 days so of course it is a shame that it had to end. But such is life i guess.
Never take anything like that for granted though. Even if you dont see the person often, you will still miss them when they are gone. Thank you in advance for any comments you may choose to make. I really needed to talk about it. And i know you guys rock.<3
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Post by Will on Oct 27, 2005 23:52:27 GMT -5
How are you feeling now? Better? I know I usually feel much better after writing out my troubles or saying it out loud to people I trust.
To be honest though, I have never really been in a romantic relationship with anyone. Sad, I know, but it's true. Therefore I can't relate to your pains, but I do still want you to know that I care about you and that I'm here for you. I'm here to listen if you just need someone to rant to.
Yes, acknowledge the things he has done, but don't fret about it. You know he is a good person. Be happy that you finally have air to breathe after cutting him loose. If you think about it, breathing is one of the most pleasurable things anyone can do. 
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Post by Lianne on Oct 28, 2005 0:02:57 GMT -5
Thanks will. That made me smile 
I do feel better letting it out. I didnt put it all there because a bit of it is too personal i think. But i do feel better writing it down.
Its going to be really hard geting used to him not being there. Its like loosing your best friend. WEll it is.
So be and my best lady made a pact that if we are single when we are 40 we are gonna get married!! lol we suck 
and i do love breathing. I took a deep breath as i wrote that.
Thank you *hugs* <3
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Post by KoNeko on Oct 29, 2005 16:04:12 GMT -5
Li, I know what you mean about breakups. I'm sure you've seen all the drama that I went through about a year and a half ago on Glenmore, and I know that even if you were the one doing the breaking up it hurts like hell. But as long as you know deep in your heart that it was the right thing to do and it was just time to let go of a relationship that had gone sour, then you are the better person for having done so instead of clinging onto a false hope.
If you've been together for two years-ish, I guess this gives you an opportunity to discover yourself as an individual, instead of being half of a couple. I'm serious, consider this an experiment in finding out who you are and what you are, and what you can really be like.
Again, I know it still does hurt, but it will make you stronger in the long run. If you ever need to talk to anyone about boy stuff like this ( : you can always PM me, or hey now I have facebook anyway!
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Post by Lianne on Oct 31, 2005 1:37:57 GMT -5
thanks for your suppors, willow and Ko, i feel kind of stupid now, but i think my best friend has been "setting this up" in a way, and ive talked to alex about it, and i had no real reason to break up with him. So we are trying to make it work one last time, and if it doesnt this time, then its good bye..
My "best friend" always tells me "i dont support that relationship in any way so im not getting into ...." or "well you already know what i think about that relationship" and other things liek that which i never looked too much into. And after talking to alex i figured out so much more and i think shes been trying to get me to break up with him this whole time. and i really need a serious talk with her.
anyways, we are going to get it to work between us. I don't care what she thinks, or what anyone thinks if they say i shouldnt be with him because im too young or any other reason.Until he starts treating me badly or until the day it just doesnt click between us anymore, then i will do something about it. Not when my best friend says something to me at the right time to make me upset, when i was already upset to begin with... When I am ready to go it.
I feel so stupid, like i fell into the trap she set for me. i dont know how to feel abotu her now  i need to talk to her. Talking with my other good friend, who would have nothing to gain and nothign to lose from me being with alex or not, and who i trust with my life.. and i told her how i felt and she had the same thing in her mind too.
GAH what a mess youve created Lianne....
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Post by claireissa on Sept 23, 2007 16:18:13 GMT -5
about 2 weeks ago i broke up with my bf i'd been going out with for about a month or so,we met on a chat room and relly got to like each other he was in college and Im a freshman,but then he started getting weird and we didn't get along any more,I relly liked this guy but not enough to be scared of talking to him.
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you can always PM me, or hey now I have facebook anyway! 
i need to talk to her. Talking with my other good friend, who would have nothing to gain and nothign to lose from me being with alex or not, and who i trust with my life.. and i told her how i felt and she had the same thing in her mind too. 
