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Post by coldmercurywitch on Oct 8, 2002 1:33:46 GMT -5
OK. This is basically a place for people to vent, and get a load off their shoulders. It doesn't nessesarily have to be something you've done wrong, just something that's niggling at you.
You can either just make a post to get it out, or you can request help. If you want help with your problem, just put at the top of your post in big red letters HELP!, as shown below:HELP!i or someone else will try to help you and give what advice we can.
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Post by Phoenix on Oct 8, 2002 8:33:15 GMT -5
[glow=red,2,300]HELP![/glow]
Between school and work life has been too much lately and I'm afraid that I don't get along well with the other workers. Sometimes I'm away from my family so much that I miss even the things that I used to hate about them! I just feel like breaking down and crying all the time when I'm not dying of exhaustion.
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Post by coldmercurywitch on Oct 8, 2002 9:31:29 GMT -5
Pheonix, I know how you feel, cos I get like that too, only it's because I work, and if I'm not working, I'm around my family all the time, cos I'm just expected to be there for everyone.
Doing school adn keeping a job at the same time is a big responsibility to tackle, and the stress will get to you very easily if you let it. The fact you have no free time to yourself most of the time can be very depressing and frustrating, adn not being around your family when you love them so much makes it worse.
The best thing you can probably do is set aside some time for yourself every day, or most days at least. MAke it it you time, where you do anything you want. Use this time to relax, think about your situation calmly, call your family, adn every once in while do something you don't normally do, or something to spoil yourself. Maybe get some friends together if possible and just have a fun night out, or in together.
Most importantly, if you feel like you want to cry, then when you have the time alone, cry. Let it all out. Howl your head off and flood the room. You'll feel better after you've calmed down. Sometimes, you just have to let it all out.
And if you ever want to talk, I'm willing to listen. If you want to talk privately, you can PM me. I don't bite, and Chris trusts me to talk to as well. So any time.
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Post by HPFan_is_back on Oct 17, 2002 21:59:11 GMT -5
Righting wrongs is draining and harder than it should be.
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Post by harry on Dec 29, 2002 4:53:26 GMT -5
HELP! my friends dared me to egg someones door or they would kick me in . i did it and now they are threatening to tell the house i did it to WAT SHOULD I DO?
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Jack
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Post by Jack on Dec 29, 2002 5:34:21 GMT -5
and they are still freinds?
well maybe you shouldn't have egged the house anyway... and why are they threatening to tell the house?
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Post by coldmercurywitch on Dec 29, 2002 8:16:36 GMT -5
HELP! my friends dared me to egg someones door or they would kick me in . i did it and now they are threatening to tell the house i did it to WAT SHOULD I DO? Erm....OK, first of all, I'd find some new friends. Hell, I'd rather no friends if they were the sort I would have to get stuck with!
Secondly, why exactly did they dare you to egg the house? Was it just that they were in a mischievious mood and decided to get you to do their dirty work? Was it some sort of test to get you into a club?
And finally, why did you think they were your friends when they were threatening to kick you in?
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Post by Katarina on Jan 20, 2003 23:52:31 GMT -5
::mock seriousness:: Bless me father for I have sinned, it's been two years since my last confession. ::rolls eyes dramatically:: My friend has been dating, against my protests, the biggest Skeez I've met in a while. Having started dating him when he was still dating his previous girlfriend, one would think she wouldn't think his cheating on her completely out of the picture. However, she seems to have exchanged her functioning brain cells for Andrew dearest and has been left without the power of judgement. I haven't liked Andrew dearest since he got my older brother's ex to break up with Nich for him only to date her for a week then break up with her becuase he left her for someone else. I have voiced my opinions on him repeatedly and now she won't listen to me no matter what I tell her about him. So now, when I know that he has cheated on her for the second time, I don't know how to tell her and to have her believe me. She's completely wrapped up in Andrew dearest and I don't know how to help her get away from him before she finds out about his excessive cheating and gets hurt even more than she will if he breaks up with her for someone else. He doesn't deserve someone as good as her.
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Post by coldmercurywitch on Jan 21, 2003 3:03:30 GMT -5
Hey Kat, (you don't mind me calling you tha do you?). *sigh* Unfortunately, it sounds like he has made promises to her that she is the only one he loves, an it sounds like she has been niave enough to fall for the act. He's obviously an experienced played and knows just what to say to your friend to keep her wrapped aroudn his little finger.
There isn't going to be any way of not hurting your friend. It's going to happen no matter what way she finds out. You'll also have to remember that because she is blinded by love, she isn't going to believe you when you tell her that he is cheating on her. But you obviously have to make her see because she does deserve better than this guy.
Be aware it's probably going to take a few goes for you to make her see what he really is. She might get angry at you for making accusations about him, but this will more than likely be because you are making her wake up to little signs that she wasn't taking notice to before, and it will be cracking that perfect picture she has of this Andrew guy. Keep at it. You're hre friend and she needs someone loking out for her. She might get angry at you for making her see how ugly he really his (metaphorically speakng), but I think once she gets over the initial shock of it all she will see you were being the best friend you can be and thank you for it.
Good luck. I'm not sure exactly how you can make her see what he is doing, but perhaps you could find a way to let her catch him out. If you know he is goign to say a party, but isn't taking your friend, then why don't you grab her and crash it, provided it won't put either of you in danger, because he will more than likely be with someone else there.
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Post by Katarina on Jan 21, 2003 18:41:50 GMT -5
((Yeah, Kat's what everyone calls me))
::sighs deeply:: I don't know how he became experienced. He has the personality of a fish and doesn't even have the looks to make up for it.
And I found out today that's it's gotten worse. The issue is that, for some reason or another, she's been pratically in love with him for nearly a year now. Andrew dearest is also her first boyfriend to so that rates extra attachement and, to make things even worse, I found out today that they've been having sex too. Which is, so wrong considering it's Andrew dearest
I'll be crashing the next party I hear he's going to, though he's a stick and doesn't go out often to parties. Would it really be best to interfer? Or wait until the next time she comes to me crying about him and convince her then that she should break up with him?
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Post by coldmercurywitch on Jan 22, 2003 2:24:52 GMT -5
If he upsets her on a regular basis about things, then wait till then, when she's crying over him for doing something wrong to her and she isn't thinking of him as being as sweet and lovely, then that will be the time to open her eyes up to what he's really like.
Point out things to her that she probably hasn't been noticing because she's been head over heels for him. If you know the other girls he has been cheating on her with, then perhaps mention them, because she have seen him talking to them and thought nothing of it. BUt also convince her that they probably don't know he's cheating on them as well. You don't want your friend starting cat fights with girls, you want her to get away from this guy that is hurting her without her realising it.
There isn't much you can do about them already having had sex, but I would suggest that you talk your friend into going in to get tested for STDs. You don't really know if they have had unprotected sex, and if he does cheat on her with other girls, than there is a higher possibilty that he does have something. Make sure you let her know it's for her own safety though, rather than to make her feel bad. Tell her you care about her and will feel alot better knowing she has been tested.
I can't think of anything else right now. Hopefully, from what you have said, he'll get her upset over something so you can help her from there. Good luck.
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Post by Natz on Feb 2, 2003 16:28:18 GMT -5
HELP
I feel like that my workload from school has become far too much and the fact that i had to revise this year and last year is starting to take its toll as i am getting really sick of revision and i am considering whether unbi will be as bad as this as my life as just become the same repetative cycle.
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Post by Calantha on Feb 16, 2003 15:58:20 GMT -5
ARGH!
This doesn't really have to deal with anything with people...no, just the damn weather...oh, how I hate snow right now...hate it hate it hate it. You know, at one point, I can remember Virginia hardly ever got snow, a few inches here, a few inches here...what, the last blizzard was in...96? Yeah, I'm pretty sure...but ohhhh no, not this year. Not this year at all...it's snowed soooo much...I mean, I can handle it, five inches here and there, I can still go out, I can still be, oh, I don't know warm...but not now. Twenty-one inches, and it is only half way through the storm!! I am going to go insane with all of this snow...I went out and shoveled my driveway for fun...I don't shovel for fun...my car, well you can't even see it because of the snow drifts, and it isn't four wheel drive, I would walk except where would I go? It's like, completely white everywhere...the snow is coming down so heavy you can't even see objects clearly...they shut down metro, which meant they canceled the concert I was suppose to go to, not that I could get to a metro station anyways, considering that its snowing crazy here. ARGH.
You know, I used to enjoy snow, I really did. But now, I just feel trapped...ever seen "Storm of the Century"? Or read it? It's a book isn't it? Yeah, that's how I feel...and I'm waiting for some guy with his scary cane to come...I can't tell road from sidewalk...and I let my poor cat out earlier and had to search for her because I couldn't see her in the snow. I'm just fed up with the weather, with this snow, and it is never going to end, at least power hasn't gone out or anything...and ya know what? I know for some this is normal...this blizzard-snow-thing...but I don't like, I don't like it one bit.
*sighs* Much better...
EDIT: They've just said that if any vehicles are one the road other than emergency ones you'll get a ticket. Lovely Va road crews are horrible
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Puck
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Post by Puck on Feb 17, 2003 21:17:00 GMT -5
Cala. How can you not be enjoying the snow? You love to ski! You're right though, the secondary roads are in some rough conditions. At least you can catch up on sleep, right? And you can knit me something nice!
Natz, have you just overloaded your schedule? Or is the schoolwork getting harder or they just pile it on? This might be naive, but why not just take a break? You know, but some things on the back burner until things, I don't know, get easier.
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Post by lumennremirath on Mar 14, 2003 18:18:23 GMT -5
I am so sick of Andy and James. They need to shut the f%@k up. Not only are they verbally abusing me, but they are d@mn near close to being punched. They need to get lives of their own, and they need to just stay the hell away from me. Not only that, but I am just about an inch from beating the $h!t out of Jared, because he will not go away. He has this major macho-thing going on, and it's starting to p!ss me off. What else is there...? Ah, of course. MY DAD NEEDS TO ADMIT HE'S A F%@king ALCOHOLIC! He still acts like a freakin' twelve-year-old. Not to mention he needs to let me make my own decisions in life, and he needs to let me handle my school situations. If he gives me one more of his stupid lectures one more time, I think I might actually try to hurt him for real. I've imagined doing all kinds of things that would really hurt, but I think I might actually stand up to him and tell him to back the fork off. He's soooo sure that there's a weirdo behind every single corner in the world, and they're all after me. I know that there are quite a few sick-minded people here, but he needs to really loosen up. Okay, I'm trying to stay caught up in school, but sometimes it's really hard. But since I scored soooo well on the standardised tests, I must be some special little kid who can do everything in five seconds, and shouldn't have any problem whatsoever doing everything on time. But there are sooo many days that I just can't stay awake because of my medicine; they bumped up the dose on my anti-depression medication, so now I'm even more tired than I was before, and I also sometimes have those little dark thoughts hanging in the back of my mind. They're always there. But these teachers are like, "Hey, she's smart, so she can do multiple assignments all at once!" They're wrong, though! I get overwhelmed, and that's when I start having those suicidal feelings churning up. They just don't understand how I feel inside, and even though I try, they simply won't listen. My IRL friends do the same thing. They come to me with all of their problems, and I always listen. Then, when I go to them, they're simply too busy, or at a game, or doing homework, or making up some other excuse so they don't have to listen to me rant about MY problems. I have all these dreams of living a happy, exciting life, but I don't really think it'll happen; I can never seem to have a lot of good days in a row, or else something good will happen, and that is strictly forbidden or something by someone. Once I feel like I'm finally doing good things for others, and I'm doing well in school and in life, something bad happens -- my dad starts drinking again, my sister never calls, my mom and I get into a fight and I lose track of her, Old, upsetting memories replay in my mind....or I feel all alone, like no one truly cares if I live or die. I feel like that all the time, like people are just saying that they'll always be there for me, or they'll always listen to me when I need a listening ear, their shoulder will always be available for me to cry on, that kind of stuff. I feel like it's all just an act, and that no one has true feelings for what happens to me. Like, say that I run away from home. I'm afraid that no one will bother sending out search parties, or that no one will notice I'm not there... I just feel so alone.
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