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Post by nancy on Apr 6, 2007 0:40:17 GMT -5
I don't know how to tell my family that I'm, at best, agnostic.
and that it annoys me sometimes, when they talk religion.
we're not even religious, but still.
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Post by hermoine on Apr 6, 2007 4:40:25 GMT -5
Ack! Someone with my same problems!
I don't mind talking about religion per se but I'm no devout Christian; and being in one of the most traditionally Christian countries, oh gee the joy of telling... 
But what I'm doing is showing bit by bit that I'm more of the liberal type. Acting as some devout believer would just by lying to them, which I don't intend on doing ya know?
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Post by nancy on Apr 6, 2007 15:34:48 GMT -5
I find religions can be intellectualy interesting, in the same way as history.
But
I am not a religous person. I never was. I went to catholic school and still had doubts aboout God at the age of 8. So as you can see, I've had my problem forever. Also can't tell most friends, they'd kill me. Figuratively.
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Post by nancy on Aug 12, 2007 22:41:01 GMT -5
So, I have no idea where else to put this.
a guy I knew, from Uni, died yesterday. I'm not sure of the specifics, especially since he was in Germany at the time; he was doing his foreign semester there. They're saying he got totally wasted at some bar, so when everyone else left, he didn't. He stayed there with some girl he'd just met. When he wasn't back by 3:30 or so, his roomies called him, no answer, so they called the cops. He was found under some construction site, dead. Apparently he fell from a third or fourth floor.
It seems so unreal, yet I've been assured by his friends and everyone that it's true. And there's been no facebook movement on his account...
But it's so shocking. I mean the guy was maybe 21. and now he just... isn't.
I'm sad, yeah, how could I not be? But I'm mostly just in shock.
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Post by claireissa on Sept 23, 2007 16:08:14 GMT -5
gosh,were to start,,,,,,Well,Im homeschooled and I just moved to a new town,,,,my old freinds have left me,and kids up here aren't very nice,I'd like some freinds who don't care about looks,or money,or stuff,just a couple of buddies I can confide in,is that too much to ask???!!
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Post by En on Jan 10, 2011 20:56:41 GMT -5
How does one explain that it's not that one doesn't forgive someone, but that one simply doesn't want contact at all with a person who has unpredictable reactions that cause other people trouble?
...and how does one forgive such actions?
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Post by Lianne on Jan 11, 2011 18:30:02 GMT -5
I suppose forgiveness is the hardest thing to give. Especially if one is left feeling hurt and shoved in a corner. Forgiveness comes from inside of a person.
I think we first must first forgive ourselves. Many times, i think, one might believe they forgive someone for something they did but then later think to themselves, "i can't believe i let this happen to me. Once one forgives oneself and allows happiness back into their heart, then one could truly forgive another.
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Post by Rue on Jan 13, 2011 5:07:03 GMT -5
I think there's quite a big difference between forgiveness and trust. It can be difficult to forgive someone, especially when their actions caused other people discomfort. However, since their actions are now in the past, forgiving them allows you to finally let the issue go. Eliminating the emotional angst and feelings of anger you've tied to that memory is usually worth it, no matter how difficult the process of forgiveness feels as you're going through it.
The hard part is then trusting that person to not act irresponsibly again in the future. Depending on their relationship to you and the severity of their mistakes, you just need to judge whether or not they deserve to regain your trust, and under what restrictions. Some people deserve second and third chances, but others are too unpredictable or harmful to risk letting them get that close again.
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Post by Calantha on Feb 9, 2011 22:50:11 GMT -5
I struggle a lot with forgiving myself. I am so often ready to forgive and trust others, even if I know I might get hurt again. I want people to do the right thing, and I want to believe people are naturally inclined to do good. I also tend to be of the school, "If I just try harder, love more," etc that I'll somehow magically change the outcome of an action or change a person. I feel like it is as detrimental as not being able to forgive and trust others.
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