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Post by Nie on Feb 6, 2004 7:16:57 GMT -5
Natz, why are you changing Universities to start with? Was it because it's closer to home, or has a better course that you wanted?
There has to be reason you wanted to change, and it's bound to be a really good reason. You shouldn't feel guilty about it. And I can see why you feel bad about your dad selling his minerals, but he did it because he loves you and wants the best for you. I think the best thing you can do is get over your guilt and give this new Uni your all and do your best. It'll make him proud and will make him selling his minerals feel more worthwhile for you.
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Post by Natz on Feb 7, 2004 5:51:14 GMT -5
I'm basically changing unis because the one i originally went to i hated. The thing is though i didn't neccesarily want to stay at home but my parents thought it would be the best option for me because i haven't got the right personality to go away from home because i'm quiet and at the mo cause i am on my gap year i don't go out much.
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Post by TheDarkWizard on Apr 11, 2004 17:36:42 GMT -5
[glow=red,2,300]HELP![/glow]
I have been having some trouble as of late; at school my best friend likes me and she asked me out and I told her no, but now she thinks that I hate her and we have been friends since 6th grade ( in 9th right now) and I don't know what to do! Please Help!!!
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Post by Leia Skye on Apr 11, 2004 18:24:37 GMT -5
Talk to her. Tell her you don't want your friendship to be over. Given your age, I would expect her to be really upset for a while. She may come around in as soon as a few weeks or as long as a few years. Sorry, we girls are truly hateful creatures sometimes.
Don't take my word for it though - I'm only speaking from my own experiences. People could very well be different where you're from.
Good luck! And talk to her!! You can't pass it by, even if you're afraid to hurt her even more. Chances are later on she'll remember you had the initiative to try and talk to her about this and she'll be grateful.
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Post by TheDarkWizard on Apr 11, 2004 18:49:48 GMT -5
ok well thanks for the info!
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Post by Jenny's Back! on Aug 4, 2004 21:38:07 GMT -5
Alright... i'm the first to admit that Im no angel. i've had a ton of mistakes made in my life... but i think this one is by far the worst. I trust you guys completely, so this is why I will share this with you. This monrning/last night I did something... someone actaully. it was my best friend's older brother. I feel bad, becasue its her birthday, but she says that shes okay about it. I still dont know though. Im feeling pretty whore-ish right now
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Post by d on Aug 4, 2004 23:51:15 GMT -5
Can I ask what made you do it?
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Post by Sarah on Aug 5, 2004 0:02:53 GMT -5
*takes a deep breath* okay...so i've seriously liked this guy for a while now and i'm not sure if he feels the same. he's 4 years older, btw. and he's introduced me to some of his girlfriends when he's with them (we've known each other about a year), like he's asking for my approval. Most of the time i'm pretty nice about it, never saying/ doing anything that might make him think i disapprove. He knows how much i adore him and he usually stays with those certain girls for a day or two. lately, he's been single and i'm happy...but i'm curious if im hold ing him back. i never say or do anything that might make him think i disapprove, but i guess i might kinda show it without meaning to. He has hinted at liking me (like just the other weekend we had a looong convo about if we were ever to get married and what we might do and such...and his body language around me...etc) but i'm still not sure...is there any way i can find out for sure?
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Post by Lianne on Aug 5, 2004 7:23:00 GMT -5
ok Jen:
if your friends says that she is okay with it, it might really be bothering her. First of all she prolly doesnt want to know about her brother's sex life . but if she saya that she is okay with it...
do you honestly feel as if it was a mistake? or are you only feeling like that for your friends sake? i dont really know what else to say... not like your are the only one that has done something like this, but if there is any way that we can help by talking to you post here.
i remember once there was a sex ed thing inthe rainbow society. maybe we should have one of those threads
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Post by d on Aug 5, 2004 10:46:33 GMT -5
Ice:
It sounds to me like something is keeping him from allowing himself to show his true feelings to you. I'm not there to judge his body language, but if he does like you yet still decides to date others instead, the biggest question to answer is why. Maybe it's the age difference. Perhaps he doesn't know if you like him. What if you are both avoiding letting the other person know and are simply apart because neither of you will step forward?
I wonder if maybe he introduces you to his girlfriends in hopes that you will disapprove and let him know how you feel in the process.
Maybe you should just tell him. You're apart now either way, and it will be really difficult to maintain a good friendship while holding things back.
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Post by Jenny's Back! on Aug 5, 2004 11:28:04 GMT -5
ok Jen:
if your friends says that she is okay with it, it might really be bothering her. First of all she prolly doesnt want to know about her brother's sex life . but if she saya that she is okay with it...
do you honestly feel as if it was a mistake? or are you only feeling like that for your friends sake? i dont really know what else to say... not like your are the only one that has done something like this, but if there is any way that we can help by talking to you post here.
i remember once there was a sex ed thing inthe rainbow society. maybe we should have one of those threads
No, i dont feel like it was a mistake... and its the first time I havent. (not that I've done it 50 times.. only 3 now.) I dont think it was a misteke. I think it's just the fact that Im not completely convinced that alyssa's fine with it. The only reason I told her is yesterday morning we were talking, and I asked her what's one thing she would kill me for doing and she said "Having sex with my brother"... wasnt gunna tell her, but when she asked me what happened, I had to. I wasnt gunna lie to my bestfriend. I probably could have waited a lot longer, but I couldn't lie to her.
Ive decided that it wasnt a mistake. I love him to death. I have for about 1.5 years. I wouldn't change a thing...
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Post by Lianne on Aug 5, 2004 12:30:28 GMT -5
well i guess that as long as you are alright with it and you are safe its your decision. However you may need to talk to your friend some more,. Friends are more importand than boys sometimes, she may feel like you are going to abandon her for her bro. or like you used her only for her bro. so you will prolly need to talk to her.
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Post by Jenny's Back! on Aug 5, 2004 13:21:31 GMT -5
Im spending this whole weekend with her. I plan on trying to talk to her about it... I dont want this to ruin our friendship at all. If it comes to making a decision, ill stop being like this with her brother, and just be friends with the both of them... shes too important to me
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Post by d on Aug 5, 2004 13:38:06 GMT -5
Well, it's definitely good to see you're prioritizing like that. Just be wary of the fact that she may say it's okay when deep down it still troubles her. Keep a close eye on her body language and whatever else you can observe.
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Post by Sarah on Aug 5, 2004 15:54:44 GMT -5
Ice: It sounds to me like something is keeping him from allowing himself to show his true feelings to you. I'm not there to judge his body language, but if he does like you yet still decides to date others instead, the biggest question to answer is why. Maybe it's the age difference. Perhaps he doesn't know if you like him. What if you are both avoiding letting the other person know and are simply apart because neither of you will step forward? I wonder if maybe he introduces you to his girlfriends in hopes that you will disapprove and let him know how you feel in the process. Maybe you should just tell him. You're apart now either way, and it will be really difficult to maintain a good friendship while holding things back. but he does know! i tell him all the time! its just...oh i dunno...the only people i know that have a problem with our age difference is my parents...and thats cause they think im too young. dont get me wrong, they looove him--in fact, they were part of the marriage talk! but still.....he knows how i feel...maybe its my parents? thanks for you help, by the way...
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